I agree teens will be teens and it isn't fair to the teens who are in the public spotlight to be fiercely judged.
But I also agree it has to do with parenting. My parents would not let me dress in too revealing clothes. I don't think revealing clothes makes you a slut but it doesn't make you sexually free either. I got talking to my guy friends about this and they said something I thought was very telling. They said when a girl dresses in revealing clothes what it says to them is that girl has no self-respect for themselves. They're doing it to get attention etc. All my guy friends said the same thing... what makes them respect women are women who don't feel they have to do that to prove a point that they're liberated sexually. A strong woman is someone who makes it clear that here they are and if you have a problem with that, screw you. Those are the women they respect. Unfortunately, in an odd way, they don't know how to show that respect. So those women slip through the cracks. But they do know how to react to the girl who dresses in next to nothing.
It is ridiculous and a stupid double standard. A woman should have the right to do whatever the hell she wants with herself. And you know what? It is not anyone's damn business. If a girl wants to wear practically lingerie so what? It is her choice. If a girl wants to cover herself up and be a virgin and not sleep around. So what?
In the movie Easy A, I thought they dealt with this whole dichotomy well. And Lisa Kudrow's character says something I found interesting, "A real slut cannot admit it to herself because she hates herself so much." Basically, a slut is someone who sleeps around to make themselves feel better about themselves. If a girl sleeps around because she wants to and it is all consenting, who the fuck cares? Actually, period? I mean, I've vented about this before. I'm sick and tired of people judging me for being a prude because I am not constantly looking for dates or having sex. I feel that society pressures girls to do just that. That it does somehow make them free. But what makes women free is the choice to do so or to not do so. I refuse to feel like whether I have sex or not to define my actual being.
And Brokencydes? I am unfamiliar. XD
And sorry if this is very ranty but word. Word a 100 times over.
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But I also agree it has to do with parenting. My parents would not let me dress in too revealing clothes. I don't think revealing clothes makes you a slut but it doesn't make you sexually free either. I got talking to my guy friends about this and they said something I thought was very telling. They said when a girl dresses in revealing clothes what it says to them is that girl has no self-respect for themselves. They're doing it to get attention etc. All my guy friends said the same thing... what makes them respect women are women who don't feel they have to do that to prove a point that they're liberated sexually. A strong woman is someone who makes it clear that here they are and if you have a problem with that, screw you. Those are the women they respect. Unfortunately, in an odd way, they don't know how to show that respect. So those women slip through the cracks. But they do know how to react to the girl who dresses in next to nothing.
It is ridiculous and a stupid double standard. A woman should have the right to do whatever the hell she wants with herself. And you know what? It is not anyone's damn business. If a girl wants to wear practically lingerie so what? It is her choice. If a girl wants to cover herself up and be a virgin and not sleep around. So what?
In the movie Easy A, I thought they dealt with this whole dichotomy well. And Lisa Kudrow's character says something I found interesting, "A real slut cannot admit it to herself because she hates herself so much." Basically, a slut is someone who sleeps around to make themselves feel better about themselves. If a girl sleeps around because she wants to and it is all consenting, who the fuck cares? Actually, period? I mean, I've vented about this before. I'm sick and tired of people judging me for being a prude because I am not constantly looking for dates or having sex. I feel that society pressures girls to do just that. That it does somehow make them free. But what makes women free is the choice to do so or to not do so. I refuse to feel like whether I have sex or not to define my actual being.
And Brokencydes? I am unfamiliar. XD
And sorry if this is very ranty but word. Word a 100 times over.