Question of the day

[oritsu_luv]

So, there's a of news and gossip on Miley Cyrus these days, what with that video of her smoking up with a bong, etc. Another nail in the coffin of her good girl image, more proof she's just a teenager, not like every teen - I certainly wasn't smoking up hallucinogenic herbs, legal or otherwise at just 18 - but like many. More proof that teenagers will be teenagers, whether they're world-famous pop stars or 16 and pregnant. The video made me feel badly for Miley, for the people she surrounds herself with, who would film her doing things that get her in the news again, that prompt her dad to post heartbreaking tweets. Honestly, I think a lot of it comes down to parenting. Even down to the things she wears, the ones that get her in the scandal sheets, the provocative outfits and dancing. Someone is allowing her to do those things, to wear those clothes. When I was 17, no way would my parents have let me out of the house like that.

But whatever you think of Miley's wild child ways, cry for help, or 'normal teen behavior', or both...

I have a question.

One comment I've seen over and over, on new posts, on YouTube videos (what, 'Who Owns My Hearts' is a good pop song) is people bashing Miley for being a 'slut'.

Really? Last time I checked, provocative clothes, or even dancing did not a slut make. All of those things are performances, an image that Miley wants to project to the world. She's had a few steady boyfriends, but last time I checked, she's not out with a different guy every night.
How exactly is she a slut?

I'm sick of this culture that makes girls feel like the only way to show they're an adult is to take their clothes off, and then, once they've done that, bashes them and calls them a slut for it. It's the reason I deleted the Brokencydes album off my iPod. You don't get to ask a girl to have sex with you, and then call her a slut when she does it.

Comments

[oronoda.livejournal.com]

I agree teens will be teens and it isn't fair to the teens who are in the public spotlight to be fiercely judged.

But I also agree it has to do with parenting. My parents would not let me dress in too revealing clothes. I don't think revealing clothes makes you a slut but it doesn't make you sexually free either. I got talking to my guy friends about this and they said something I thought was very telling. They said when a girl dresses in revealing clothes what it says to them is that girl has no self-respect for themselves. They're doing it to get attention etc. All my guy friends said the same thing... what makes them respect women are women who don't feel they have to do that to prove a point that they're liberated sexually. A strong woman is someone who makes it clear that here they are and if you have a problem with that, screw you. Those are the women they respect. Unfortunately, in an odd way, they don't know how to show that respect. So those women slip through the cracks. But they do know how to react to the girl who dresses in next to nothing.

It is ridiculous and a stupid double standard. A woman should have the right to do whatever the hell she wants with herself. And you know what? It is not anyone's damn business. If a girl wants to wear practically lingerie so what? It is her choice. If a girl wants to cover herself up and be a virgin and not sleep around. So what?

In the movie Easy A, I thought they dealt with this whole dichotomy well. And Lisa Kudrow's character says something I found interesting, "A real slut cannot admit it to herself because she hates herself so much." Basically, a slut is someone who sleeps around to make themselves feel better about themselves. If a girl sleeps around because she wants to and it is all consenting, who the fuck cares? Actually, period? I mean, I've vented about this before. I'm sick and tired of people judging me for being a prude because I am not constantly looking for dates or having sex. I feel that society pressures girls to do just that. That it does somehow make them free. But what makes women free is the choice to do so or to not do so. I refuse to feel like whether I have sex or not to define my actual being.

And Brokencydes? I am unfamiliar. XD

And sorry if this is very ranty but word. Word a 100 times over.

[roblewmac.livejournal.com]

1. The poor kid's not a slut
2 Her parents dont LET her dress like that THEY DREESS her like that
3 what do the broken whatevers have to do with anything?

[roblewmac.livejournal.com]

ps orranda don't feel TOO bad guys in wheelchairs get made fun of for not dating too!

[megu-megu.livejournal.com]

calling a girl a slut is culture shorthand. it works off the societal assumption that a woman's worth is vested in her sexual purity, and that women/girls not living up to the tidy virgin part of that annoying virgin/whore paradox are clearly sexually devalued. it's a big fucking cultural mess and constantly pisses me off.

people who resort to slut-shaming are intellectually lazy. they're not worth anyone's time.